John Stoltenberg

John Stoltenberg (born 1944)[1] is an American radical feminist activist, author, and magazine editor.[2] He is the former managing editor of AARP The Magazine, a bimonthly publication of the United States-based advocacy group AARP, a position he held from 2004 until 2012.

John Stoltenberg
Born	1944 (age 76–77) California, United States
Occupation	Writer
Known for	Radical feminism, anti-pornography activism
Spouse(s)	Andrea Dworkin ​ ​ (m. 1998; died 2005)​

Stoltenberg was life partner to Andrea Dworkin for thirty-one years (eventually marrying), although he considers himself gay.[3] He is a lapsed Lutheran, of German and Norwegian descent.[4]

Career

Stoltenberg holds a degree in fine arts and a Master of Divinity from Union Theological Seminary. He is well known as a radical feminist activist and author. He has written a series of books and articles criticizing traditional concepts of manhood or maleness, such as Refusing to Be a Man: Essays on Sex and Justice, Why I Stopped Trying to be a Real Man,[5] and The End of Manhood: A Book for Men of Conscience.[6]

Stoltenberg created "The Pose Workshop," which entailed men adopting the poses that women strike in pornographic shots (intended partly for men attending Christian retreats), a version of which was broadcast on BBC television.

He was Andrea Dworkin's life partner for thirty-one years. They began living together in 1974; in 1998 they married (see Andrea Dworkin's relationship with John Stoltenberg).

Stoltenberg is a founder of the group Men Can Stop Rape[7] and developed the group's 'My Strength' campaign[8] which aims to educate young men on sexual relationships, consent and rape. He also creative director of the group's "My Duty"[9] sexual-assault-prevention media campaign, which is licensed to the United States Department of Defense's Sexual Assault Prevention and Response Office.[10]

Stoltenberg is credited with the quote: "Pornography tells lies about women. But pornography tells the truth about men."[11]

Stoltenberg has described how, as a feminist male, he has had to reevaluate and even discontinue relationships with some of his male friends.[12]

Stoltenberg currently serves as Communications Advisor[13] for DCMetroTheaterArts.com, where he publishes theatre reviews, interviews, and essays about live theatre in Washington, D.C.[14]

Selected bibliography

Books

• Stoltenberg, John (1978). Disarmament and masculinity: An outline guide and bibliography for studying the connection between sexual violence and war. Palo Alto, California: Frog in the Well. OCLC 6185444.
• Stoltenberg, John (1989). Refusing to be a man: essays on sex and justice. Portland, Oregon: Breitenbush Books. ISBN 9780932576736. Reprinted as: Stoltenberg, John (2000). Refusing to be a man: essays on sex and justice. London & New York: UCL Press. ISBN 9781841420417. Pdf.
• Stoltenberg, John (1994). The end of manhood: a book for men of conscience (1st ed.). New York, New York, U.S.A: Plume. ISBN 9780452273047.
• Stoltenberg, John (1994). What makes pornography "sexy". Minneapolis, MN: Milkweed Editions. ISBN 9781571312013.
• Stoltenberg, John (1998). The end of manhood: a book for men of conscience (2nd ed.). Bridgewater, New Jersey: Replica Books. ISBN 9780735100404. Revised edition printed as: Stoltenberg, John (2000). The end of manhood: parables on sex and selfhood. London Bristol, Pennsylvania: UCL Press. ISBN 9781857283259.
• Stoltenberg, John (2013). Gonerz. ISBN 978-1481986472.

Blogs

• Stoltenberg, John (2015–2017). "A book-length collection of collaborative essays from radical feminist John Stoltenberg and trans feminist Cristan Williams, part of The Conversations Project". Cite journal requires |journal= (help)
• Stoltenberg, John. "Links to additional books, essays, video, memoirs and interviews". Cite journal requires |journal= (help)

Chapters in books

• Stoltenberg, John (1977), "Refusing to be a man", in Snodgrass, John (ed.), For men against sexism: a book of readings, Albion, California New York: Times Change Press Distribution, Monthly Review Press, pp. 36–40, ISBN 9780878100316.
• Stoltenberg, John (1977), "Toward gender justice", in Snodgrass, John (ed.), For men against sexism: a book of readings, Albion, California New York: Times Change Press Distribution, Monthly Review Press, ISBN 9780878100316.
• Stoltenberg, John (1977), "Eroticism and violence in the father-son relationship", in Snodgrass, John (ed.), For men against sexism: a book of readings, Albion, California New York: Times Change Press Distribution, Monthly Review Press, ISBN 9780878100316.
• Stoltenberg, John (1982), "Sadomasochism: Eroticized violence, eroticized powerlessness", in Russell, Diana E. H.; Star, Susan L.; Linden, Robin R.; et al. (eds.), Against sadomasochism: a radical feminist analysis, East Palo Alto, California: Frog in the Well, ISBN 9780960362837.
• Stoltenberg, John (1987), "Other men", in Abbott, Franklin (ed.), New men, new minds: breaking male tradition: how today's men are changing the traditional roles of masculinity, Freedom, California: Crossing Press, pp. 122–129, ISBN 9780895942197.
• Stoltenberg, John (1990), "Pornography and freedom", in Kimmel, Michael S. (ed.), Men confront pornography, New York: Crown Publishers, pp. 60–71, ISBN 9780517569313.
• Stoltenberg, John (1990), "Gays and the propornography movement: having the hots for sex discrimination", in Kimmel, Michael S. (ed.), Men confront pornography, New York: Crown Publishers, pp. 256–262, ISBN 9780517569313.
• Stoltenberg, John (1990), "You can't fight homophobia and protect the pornographers at the same time: an analysis of what went wrong in Hardwick", in Leidholdt, Dorchen; Raymond, Janice G. (eds.), The sexual liberals and the attack on feminism, New York, New York: Pergamon Press, pp. 184–190, ISBN 9780080374574.
• Stoltenberg, John (1992), "Pornography, homophobia and male supremacy", in Itzin, Catherine (ed.), Pornography: women, violence, and civil liberties, Oxford England New York: Oxford University Press, pp. 145–165, ISBN 9780198257554.
• Stoltenberg, John (1993), "Making rape an election issue", in Buchwald, Emilie; Fletcher, Pamela R.; Roth, Martha (eds.), Transforming a rape culture (1st ed.), Minneapolis, Minnesota Emeryville, California: Milkweed Editions, ISBN 9781571312044.

Reprinted as Stoltenberg, John (2005), "Making rape an election issue", in Buchwald, Emilie; Fletcher, Pamela R.; Roth, Martha (eds.), Transforming a rape culture (2nd ed.), Minneapolis, Minnesota: Milkweed Editions, ISBN 9781571312693.

• Stoltenberg, John (1993), "Pornography and freedom", in Russell, Diana E. H. (ed.), Making violence sexy: feminist views on pornography, Buckingham, England and New York City, New York: Open University Press and Teachers College Press, pp. 65–77, ISBN 9780335192007.
• Stoltenberg, John (1995), "The triangular politics of pornography", in Lederer, Laura; Delgado, Richard (eds.), The price we pay: the case against racist speech, hate propaganda, and pornography, New York City, New York: Hill & Wang, ISBN 9780809078837.
• Stoltenberg, John (1995), "Pornography and sexual violence: justice and accountability to victims", in Burgonio-Watson, Thelma; et al. (eds.), Called to make justice: collected keynote speeches from the first bi-national meeting of advocates, workers and leaders from religious communities who work to prevent sexual and domestic violence, Seattle, Washington: Center for the Prevention of Sexual and Domestic Violence, OCLC 40536815.
• Stoltenberg, John (1998), ""I am not a rapist!": Why college guys are confronting sexual violence", in Schacht, Steven P.; Ewing, Doris W. (eds.), Feminism and men: reconstructing gender relations, New York: New York University Press, ISBN 9780814780848.
• Stoltenberg, John (1998), "Healing from manhood: a radical meditation on the movement from gender identity to moral identity", in Schacht, Steven P.; Ewing, Doris W. (eds.), Feminism and men: reconstructing gender relations, New York: New York University Press, ISBN 9780814780848.
• Stoltenberg, John (1998), "Learning the F words", in Atkins, Dawn (ed.), Looking queer: body image and identity in lesbian, bisexual, gay, and transgender communities, New York: Haworth Press, pp. 393–412, ISBN 9781560239314.
• Stoltenberg, John (1999), "How power makes men: the grammar of gender identity", in Kuypers, Joseph A. (ed.), Men and power, Amherst, New York: Prometheus Books, pp. 37–54, ISBN 9781573927697
• Stoltenberg, John (1999), "Introduction", in Wild, Jim (ed.), Working with men for change, London Philadelphia: UCL Press, pp. 1–3, ISBN 9781857288612.
• Stoltenberg, John (1999), "Christianity, feminism, and the manhood crisis", in Claussen, Dane S. (ed.), Standing on the promises: the Promise Keepers and the revival of manhood, Cleveland, Ohio: Pilgrim Press, ISBN 9780829813074.
• Stoltenberg, John (2000), "Top ten ways the campus movement against sexual violence is misunderstood", in Gold, Jodi; Villari, Susan (eds.), Just sex: students rewrite the rules on sex, violence, activism, and equality, Lanham, Maryland: Rowman & Littlefield, pp. 223–244, ISBN 9780847693320
• Stoltenberg, John (2000), "Having sex outside the box", in Kay, Kerwin; Nagle, Jill; Gould, Baruch (eds.), Male lust: pleasure, power, and transformation, New York: Harrington Park Press, pp. 253–262, ISBN 9781560239826.
• Stoltenberg, John (2002), "Feminists should oppose pornography", in Cothran, Helen (ed.), Pornography: opposing viewpoints, San Diego, California: Greenhaven Press as part of the Opposing Viewpoints series, ISBN 9780737707601.
• Stoltenberg, John (2004), "How men have (a) sex", in O'Connor, Peg; Heldke, Lisa (eds.), Oppression, privilege, and resistance: theoretical perspectives on racism, sexism, and heterosexism, Boston: McGraw-Hill, pp. 349–358, ISBN 9780072882438.
• Stoltenberg, John (2004), "Pornography and international human rights", in Whisnant, Rebecca; Stark, Christine (eds.), Not for sale: feminists resisting prostitution and pornography, North Melbourne, Victoria: Spinifex Press, pp. 400–409, ISBN 9781876756499.
• Stoltenberg, John (2006), "Confronting pornography as a civil-rights issue", in Hackett, Elizabeth; Haslanger, Sally (eds.), Theorizing feminisms: a reader, New York Oxford: Oxford University Press, ISBN 9780195150094.
• Stoltenberg, John (2006), "Foreword", in Kendall, Christopher; Martino, Wayne (eds.), Gendered outcasts and sexual outlaws: sexual oppression and gender hierarchies in queer men's lives, New York: Harrington Park Press, ISBN 9781560235019.
• Stoltenberg, John (2011), "The politics of refusal", in Ashe, Fidelma (ed.), The new politics of masculinity: men, power and resistance, London: Routledge, ISBN 9780415663700.

Reviews

• Flood, Michael (Summer 1992–1993). "Sex, porn and conscience - A review of John Stoltenberg's Refusing to be a man". XY. Michael Flood. 2 (4).

Journal articles

• Stoltenberg, John (1993). "Male sexuality: why ownership is sexy". Michigan Journal of Gender and Law. 1: 59–64.
• Stoltenberg, John (1994). "Why I stopped trying to be a real man". Feminista!. Archived from the original on April 2, 2007.
• Stoltenberg, John (Spring 1995). "Male virgins, blood covenants & family values". On the Issues: The Progressive Woman's Quarterly. Article on the Promise Keepers.
• Stoltenberg, John (August–September 2000). "Of Microbes and Manhood: Sexual risk-taking among young men in the U.S. increases the likelihood of their contracting and spreading a sexually transmitted infection. Everything is gendered when it comes to education, prevention, and treatment". Ms. Vol. 10 no. 5. Ms. Magazine. p. 60.

See also

• Anti-pornography movement

References

1. "Stoltenberg, John". Library of Congress. Retrieved 1 August 2014. CIP t.p. (John Stoltenberg) pref. (formerly a playwright) data sheet (b. ca. 1944)
2. Stoltenberg, John (2000). The end of manhood: parables on sex and selfhood. London Bristol, Pennsylvania: UCL Press. p. 313. ISBN 9781857283259.
3. Stoltenberg, John (May–June 1994). "Living with Andrea Dworkin". Lambda Book Report. No Status Quo | American Civil Liberties Union reprint.
4. "'The Imperative to Reconcile': A Conversation with Ari Roth by John Stoltenberg". DCMetroTheaterArts. Retrieved 2 January 2016.
5. Stoltenberg, John. "Why I stopped trying to be a real man". Feminista. Archived from the original on April 2, 2007. Retrieved 12 September 2014.
6. Stoltenberg, John (1994). The end of manhood: a book for men of conscience (1st ed.). New York, New York, U.S.A: Plume. ISBN 9780452273047.
7. "Home page". Men can stop rape. Retrieved 12 September 2014.
8. "Home page". Mystrength.org. Retrieved 12 September 2014.
9. "Hurts one. Affects all". Myduty.mil. Archived from the original on 12 September 2014. Retrieved 12 September 2014.
10. "Home page". Sexual Assault Prevention and Response Office (SAPRO). United States Department of Defense. Archived from the original on 2006-04-19. Retrieved 2014-09-12.
11. Stoltenberg, John (2000), "The forbidden language of sex", in Stoltenberg, John (ed.), Refusing to be a man essays on sex and justice, UCL Press, ISBN 9781841420417
12. Larson, Elizabeth. "A magazine of feminist, progressive thinking | Kudos & Awards | Utne reader". On the Issues Magazine. Retrieved 12 September 2014.
13. "Our Staff". DC Metro Theater Arts. Retrieved 2019-03-09.
14. "John Stoltenberg, Author at DC Metro Theater Arts". DC Metro Theater Arts. Retrieved 2019-03-09.

External links

• Living with Andrea Dworkin, Stoltenberg's account originally published in Lambda Book Report (May/June 1994)
• Imagining Life Without Andrea, transcript of Stoltenberg's extemporaneous speech to the Take Back the Night Rally Honoring Andrea Dworkin (30 April 2005).